Tuesday, February 14, 2017

9 Secrets of True Love

Love has been the subject of countless books, ancient tablets and even ancient drawings in caves. Every one of you felt or at least talked about love in some point of your life. However, the complexities that accompany the feeling of love have always remained as a mystery and hard to comprehend.

I would like to give you a very short introduction of myself to share my point of view. There are three people inside of me, three characters and three personalities. I am a Gemini after all. I know it is a complicated sign. If you are reading this article, there is a great chance that you have some kind of heartache because of love and have looked at the stars for an answer. All jokes aside, I am not going to base my article to star positions. Love has a sense of humor and I wanted to activate that energy as you start reading about it.

One of my characters in me is a businessman. I come from a family of merchants, raised as one and I am a proud member who continues centuries old tradition. My second character is a scientist and an engineer. I studied computer science, taught for many years in a university and I am still an engineer at work. My third character is a poet, lover, and man of God. Many of my acquaintances are only familiar with only one of my characters or my summarized version since I do not think anyone can stand a person in extremes.

I believe in God and I am very religious. No, I do not believe in religions named by people. I do not follow single sect of belief. I neither go to synagogue, church or mosque every week nor pray five times a day. I have built a church of God in my heart that cannot be demolished by the hands of man or by natural disasters. This church does not have a clergy except the only ONE who is the Architect of this whole entire realm. The bells of my church rings about ninety times a minute that reminds me the existence of this Supreme Being and invites me to thank in a prayer.

I have studied religions of the world my whole life and followed a path of research which I am still on. I have experienced miracles that 'mind' cannot comprehend and have been carried through Niagara Falls of feelings which led me to write this article. I know that you are all asking many questions about love since early ages. I hope that this article will help you relieve some of your concerns and soothe the pain of burn in your heart. The love that is the topic of my article is not an ordinary love. We can describe life as a poker game. When you are ahead of the game and winning, you can settle in with what you have and call that love. Alternatively, you can wait for the true and pure love which you must go all in! You will either win everything or lose everything. But, that love will be everything regardless of the outcome. It is that love which I will be expounding in this article.

#1. Wait! Be patient

Love is not a business. You cannot create love by force or by working hard. You do not have to watch for opportunities to be successful. You need to leave this feeling alone, and never think about it. You need to stop worrying about being alone for the rest of your life. If there is someone out there that is meant for you, you will meet him or her under the circumstances that you will not be able to comprehend just how it happened. I want you to think about governments of the world. Even though there is one president of any government, there are many ministers and advisors as well as several layers of directors and managers all the way to the single individual. Most governments have short and long term plans that take account of events for the next hundred years or more. Do you really think that the creator of the biggest government of all that thought about the perfect synchronization of billions of cells in your body will forget you? You are part of a divine plan that is designed by the most perfect. Have faith and trust this power.

There are several layers of angels and other beings in between who is responsible for your well-being. You are being watched. You are being listened to. Don’t be afraid to talk to them. You are not alone and you will never be.

Love can find you at the age of 24, 48 or 60. It really does not matter when you meet love since it is not something you will only physically enjoy in your body, but something to carry along in your eternal soul.

The key point however is to wait. Let the divine plan roll out in its own time. Do not stain your heart with your own or others’ impurities. Does this also mean to abstain from sexual relationships? Even though it is not required, the answer is: Absolutely! The reason of this is not what you read in your religious book or what you hear from your parents or your reverend. People are usually prone to misinterpret the words of God due to their propensity of self-interest. If you follow often misinterpreted strict rules of religions, then getting married makes everything Okay. Marriage is a decision of two human beings performed in front of another human being in charge for approval. It is a business contract which is actually pretty out of date that will lose its value in near future. I want to introduce you to another view to you. Think of yourself as half of another. Two pieces that make one. You do not own or constitute the whole by yourself alone. If you ever shared anything with somebody else such as a roommate etc., you would know how difficult it is to be in perfect harmony as it requires sacrifices from both sides for the common good. There is another component that makes you complete, in this life or another. You need to show respect to each other. If you start inviting others into the house of ONE that do not deserve you, then you and your other half will have to work together to clean this house which will be a burden. Try to keep it clean! This will give you more time to enjoy Oneness for eternity. Timing will be based on the divine plan that ticks on the clock of the Architect, not yours. Be patient!

#2. Love has no history

The true and pure love has no history. It has no packages. It is you as an individual that bring trash from history or baggage from your past. Your trash will be collected and cleaned out eventually. There is no room for jealousy. There is no room for regret. Love is prior to history. Pure Love will be your first love. You will never love anything prior to it. You may wonder how this is possible if you have been to many relationships and could not find love. You already know that the first person you love was not pure at all. However, true Love is the first love and you have already met that love. It is encoded in your soul. The first mistake people make is to look for love. You cannot find love. Love must find you. If you follow rule number one and truly wait for it to come to you, you will eventually see yourself in the arms of that love without any effort. Once you realize the moment, you will notice that you have been there for a while. If you do not follow rule number one, you will still find yourself in Love. You will eventually be ONE as a whole after painful units of time. The most difficult and challenging time will be when you realize that you were given the signs to follow, and that you did not. You will realize that your true love was communicated to you in one way or another before history. This could be a dream, a piece of fabric or a book with a name written on it.

#3. Love is not sexual

I know that I will disappoint many with this rule. There is nothing I can do about this. The truth is that the sexual feelings are strictly for the physical body. It is for the package that holds the soul to survive without real love.

The closest feeling to pure love is the love you feel towards your children. There is no doubt that you would sacrifice anything for your children. They are your main purpose and the most important being(s) in your life. You do not feel any kind of sexual feeling toward your children unless there is something truly wrong with you. This should tell you that the pure love is far superior to other worldly feelings. You can feel how your children are and know when they are in trouble as you are in tune with them, care and love them. They are in your dreams and in your mind at all times without any effort on your behalf.

You may use this rule to rule out the doubt in your mind. If you desire someone sexually, I can assure you it is not a pure Love.

#4. Love is a miracle

Miracle is defined in Oxford dictionary as “a surprising and welcoming event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws and is therefore considered to be the work of a divine agency”. However, you just need to look around you to realize that everything is a miracle. One of the most brilliant minds of all time, Albert Einstein once said “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” Einstein also said “Coincidence is God's way of remaining anonymous.” These are two great observations by this bright scientist. I know that many of you are worrying about what you need to do in order to find that true Love. I just want to assure you that love will find you even if it means through a miracle. You might be realms or continents away from your love. You might be from totally different race or belief. You might be living by yourself in the middle of nowhere. The divine plan of The Architect has you in it and all planned out. If it is a miracle that will make the two meet, so be it. The ONE who created everything from nothing will surely strike a miracle. Even when your scientific mind is not ready to comprehend the divine miracles, you will have a series of coincidences that will fall in front of you.

#5. Don’t make assumptions for Love

Miracles and coincidences are around you through your life. In order to get you two in one place, it might require network of friends to be in place. These are “coincidences” that are the building blocks of the divine plan. Once you realize that there is something greater out there and become aware, you may be inclined to follow the crumbs of miracles. This will only confuse you since you as a human being is not at the capacity to understand the complexity of this plan and end up with false interpretations of the coincidences. You might find yourself chasing the love to find it instead of waiting. This will only set you back. Do not try to understand but focus on purity. You will not be able to understand love with your mind, but only through your heart.

#6. Love has a surprise effect

If you are aware of the divine plan and see yourself in track, you might be expecting or dreaming of this miraculous meeting. You might have a plan on your own. All I can tell you is not to worry about it. You will have no control over it. Love does not care how much you are ready or how much you are prepared. It will surprise you. It will show itself when it is totally not expected. It will make you cry for years to come. The feeling of climax of your love story will never end. It is a light that will shine from within and without. It will be the figurine that is made out of the thinnest glass of light which you will only touch with a light from your fingers. It will be a light that will warm you, burn you and consume you. You will even be afraid to touch.

#7. Love requires distance

When you love something so much, you want to keep it safe. Any piece of object that you love and have a meaning are usually stored somewhere where you can see it all the time but away from danger. You have guest towels, table clothes and dishes you only take out on important days. Once you have true love, you will try to do the same thing. You will try to keep it safe, even from yourself. You will be scared to hurt it in any ways. You would like to see it, hear it, feel it; from a distance where you can reach when they are in danger to sacrifice your own life to protect it, but still far enough to have their own space.

#8. Love has free will

Although love must find you with its own free will, both individual must walk into the Vesica Pisces themselves. You cannot force or lead love. They might be in a relationship or in another commitment. They might be happy with where they are. You need to be happy if they are happy. If you are feeling any kind of jealousy, then you do not have a true love in your heart. You need to remember that true love is not for physical life or for this world, but it is for the eternity. Once love finds you, you should know that it will always be with you. Try to enjoy it. You will now possess supernatural powers within you which will make it easy to make things happen. Respect free will! Even the Supreme Architect respects your free will!

#9. God is Love

There are very few who will be able to understand and accept the secrets of true love at the first time of reading this. You will go through stages in your life and will understand something different each time you read this article. You will eventually and hopefully comprehend the previous eight secrets. Once you have the light of the pure love in your heart and soul, you will realize it is not a human being that you are in love. The whole experience you had with Love was actually with the Creator himself. Bible essentially gives a simple equation: “God is Love”. Being One with yourself which means having both part of your souls to be united - is necessary for ascension. Once this is complete and you are soaked with light of pure love on the soul level, the next step will be to be aware of your Oneness as a part of the whole ONE.

Keep your faith regardless of endless difficulties you are going through. There is a light at the end of the tunnel which will worth everything. Let the light shine your path!

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

The Art of Waiting for Entrepreneurs

Waiting can be one of the most difficult and even unpleasant experiences in life.  It doesn't matter what the amount of time is involved.  The only thing that really matters is the reason for the wait.  Probably everyone has heard of the list of takes on the feeling of one minute, and how the feeling of that same minute changes from perspective to perspective.  

In this world that is obsessed with action, speediness, and productivity, we are told to "Seize the moment" and other similar sayings that, hopefully, goad us forward.  Unfortunately, as we often find out, we have worked our way to where exactly?  This is especially true when in business and other fields we strive to take advantage of opportunities as--or even before--they present themselves.  The frequent result ends up being decisions based on inadequate information and incomplete data.  It is in these situations that we frequently find ourselves questioning the wisdom of General George S. Patton who often said, "It is better to execute a plan based on incomplete information today than complete information tomorrow."

For years we have been told not to jump to conclusions, yet today we jump not only more frequently, but more firmly than at any time in the past to our firmest conclusions ever.  The virtues of making good snap decisions is preached in business schools and boardrooms everywhere, yet the value of Plato's observation that "an unexamined life is not worth living" goes unheeded.  

Frank Partnoy shines a light on a number of questions about how we look at time, view procrastination, and what it really means to be human through the perspectives of psychology, philosophy, social science, behavioral economics, anthropology, and more.[1]  The resulting study is an important, if counter-intuitive, look at what effect delay might have on a culture such as ours that is obsessed with anything but, resulting in a mad dash into what ends up at hasty and rash.  

Partnoy further shows how questions about waiting and delay can be a fundamental to our roles as human beings.  Not only does pure wisdom and judgment come from perceiving and acknowledging our limitations as humans, but they define us better when we understand that time does play an important role in the things we do as well as how we do them.  Instead of showing that we are hasty, waiting for given situations to better present themselves shows that as humans we acknowledge our limitations and choose to utilize the time we are able to take to observe and effectively process the information we are given access to. 

Most interestingly, Partnoy considers our ability to wait as a gift, another of the many tools that we can use to better ourselves and examine our lives.  And while it might still be true that life is a race against the clock, as human beings we are given the chance to take matters back into our own hands and rise above it all to stop, better process, understand, and work with the time we have available.  Perhaps it would be better to call this period of time "active waiting," since despite sounding like an oxymoron, it is far from being a passive term. Consider the Serenity Prayer: "Lord, grant me that serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

This dictum encourages a more active form of waiting that perhaps is a better explanation, that of a healthy balance of action and contemplation that gives us the liberty to step up and stand down when our intuitive nature determines which response is appropriate.  How is this done?

1.  Take in the information.  Whatever the situation might be, we need to consider all of the facts we have at hand, regardless of their status or their degree of completeness.  Perhaps waiting is fool-hearty, given the circumstances.  Most situations, by nature, encourage waiting.  This is true of finding a job, getting into the right relationship, and any number of other decisions.  

2.  Taking action.  You might or might not at this point take action.  Even if you do elect to take action, however, this does not mean that you are not waiting at the same time.  You might be able to continue your gathering of information and analysis of what information you have available, but you are not making a final decision.  You might even be engaging others in your analysis of the information you have available, which will contribute to your decision.

3.  Watch things unfold.  It might be a metaphorical tango, but there really is a value to waiting, even as things unfold as they can and most often do.  This is perhaps the best kind of waiting, watching things emerge from the nothingness of the unknown into something that is beautiful.  There are a lot of things in academia like this. You should, ideally, be ready to not just lead, but lead and follow at the same time, to sow and to reap, to act and to wait, waiting for things to emerge as they were meant to do so.

[1] 1.  Partnoy, Frank.  Wait: The Art and Science of Delay.

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

9 Rules of Leadership

Being a leader isn't always easy, and it can be difficult to help people work through dilemmas they have in the workplace if you don't have the right leadership skills. Everyone in a business is connected, and they need to work together to build the business into everything it should - and can - be. That work has to start with the leader, though. When a person knows how to lead in the right way, they are much more able to make things happen for themselves, their employees, and their company. To keep the business moving in the right direction, here are nine rules of leadership that you can follow.

1. Pull, don't push

You don't have to be in a leadership position to be a leader. Whether your company has recognized you as a manager, you may still have plenty of good leadership traits you can put into practice. In order to do that, though, the best thing is to be a puller, not a pusher. In other words, do the kinds of things that will move the company forward, and pull others along with you. They will be much more likely to follow you if they see you doing something, rather than being told to do something that you're not engaged in. Being a successful leader in this way can extend well beyond just managing people in a company, and can also be used in the other parts of your life, as well.

Finding a solution to a problem is often what a leader is most focused on. The way to do that is to find the end of the thread that seems to be tangled throughout the situation, and start working your way along it. As you do that, you'll find ways to untangle that string, and fix any issues that occur. Leading people to a solution means getting through the situation, from one end of the string to the other, so you can settle conflicts and address issues. By doing that, you can become a much more effective leader, and be respected by those who follow you.

2. Separate the issues from the people

One of the best ways to handle issues is to remember that people are not their issues, and the issues are not what make up the people. Learning this lesson can be difficult, but it isn't impossible - and it's highly important to anyone who wants to be a leader. Conflict can be between people, but it doesn't make up those people. Too often, differences of opinion lead to fights and conflicts, but those differences are not really the root of the problem. Actually, those differences can be one of the ways to find a solution.

Identifying the issues and not connecting them with the specific people is the best way to lead, because it allows everyone in the situation to take a step back and focus on what is really taking place, without playing the "blame game" and making other people out to be the cause of the problem. People are generally not the cause of the problem, but they can help to come up with the solutions that are needed, and that can go a long way toward keeping a company moving forward.

3. Don't raise your voice, and don't get aggressive

Aggression isn't a sign of strength. It's actually a sign of weakness: yours. It's easy to get aggravated and aggressive, but you mustn't let your temper get the better of you. Take a deep breath, walk away, or find something else to focus on for a while. Revisit the issue (and the people surrounding it) once you've calmed down for a while. When you show aggression, you lose control and strength in the situation, and that can mean your followers will stop trusting you and responding to your leadership, which could damage the entire company.

4. Plan to be honestly helpful

When you genuinely plan to be helpful to people, you can get a lot more done and get people to respond to your efforts. Focus your efforts on the people around you, instead of on yourself, and you will go much further as a leader. Ask how people are doing, and provide them with some genuine interest in the things that matter to them. Let them know you care about them, and that all of you are in this together. See what you can do for them, and listen to them if they come to you for help or with questions. When they understand that you can really help them, and that you want to help them, they will put their trust in you, and allow you to lead them more easily.

5. Take your focus off of revenue

Don't spend your time focused on revenue. The satisfaction of your customers and the happiness of the employees who you lead should be much more important. When you make those things your priority, you'll find that the revenue will come along with that. You may lose money in the short term, but in the long term you will end up making more money because employees will enjoy working for you and customers will like what you have to offer. By getting more customers and happier employees, you'll see more income, and a better bottom line for your company.

6. Put your trust in people

It can feel stressful to really put your trust in the people around you, but doing so is well worth the effort. Many businesses increase how many suppliers they have so they don't have to be dependent on just one or two, and so they can increase the price competition. While that makes sense, the same practice doesn't always work well with employees. When you hire more people than you actually need for a project, you run the risk of having too many people to really put your trust in anyone. No one becomes indispensable, but no one feels the need to really become invested in the project, either. They know they really aren't needed, and that can keep them from giving their all.

Instead of pushing people aside when times are hard, or hiring too many people to make sure you have enough coverage during busy times, put your trust in the people you already work with. Create a good team and then build on that, so you're better able to show that you're a leader who takes things seriously. When you show people that they matter to you and you want to cultivate a good relationship with them, they will respond to that, and you'll end up with trustworthy employees, suppliers, and friends.

7. Attribute your success

Make sure you acknowledge the people who helped you, and take ownership of the problems you have. When you try to place the blame on others, you're not showing yourself to be a good leader. The same is true when you try to take all the credit for something. Avoid both of those things, and focus on the value and importance of accountability.

8. Be an example

Be the person you want your followers to be. When you work hard, be honest, be transparent, and stick to the path of righteousness, you show people that life can be lived that way. Just telling people how to live isn't going to work, but when they see you living that way every day, they see that it's possible for them to do it, as well.

9. Focus on your legacy

You don't know how long you'll live, so don't put off the things that matter to you. Time is the most valuable thing you have, and that time is limited. Do the things you want to do, and focus on what matters. The way you value your time will cause followers to admire you, and see the value in their own time, as well.

Monday, May 25, 2015

Happy Memorial Day

Happy Memorial Day everyone!

It is the official start of the summer, the first day of swimming pools in most states. It is the day to gather with friends for a BBQ. It is even a great day for buying a car.
© 2015 Ali Taciroglu 

Today also marks my 10-year anniversary of my silent tradition of visiting cemeteries of our veterans. I neither talked about it nor wrote about it until now. Since I conduct my visits early morning on Sundays, I am also not seen by many people. In recent years, I enjoyed knowing that there are like-minded brothers from Massachusetts who have the same tradition. It feels good that you are not alone… It feels good that Veterans are not alone and there are people who remember them for what they did for their country.

I was alone once again this year due to my recent move from Massachusetts to Southern California. I visited Miramar National Cemetery by myself on Sunday which is about one and a half hours away from my home. I brought pennies to be placed on the tombstones so that tomorrow visitors and families of the veterans can see that there is someone else there thinking and praying for their heroes and beloved ones.
© 2015 Ali Taciroglu 

Leaving coins is a tradition I learnt from Robert Stanley of Massachusetts. This is actually a very old tradition that has its roots in ancient times. Humans have been leaving mementos on and within the final resting places of their loved ones. The earliest known leaving of coins on headstones dates back to the seventh century. 

This tradition even has a place in the history of old Greek mythology as a fare for the ferryman of Hades which was required as an offer for his services. In modern days, these small coins are left by visitors to indicate that someone had visited that particular grave. There are several articles and websites that talks about this tradition which you might enjoy.

Alexander Dmitrievich Litovchenko (1835-1890) "Charon carries souls across the river Styx" (1)

Few of my Turkish and American friends who know about my visits had asked me why I visit cemeteries that belong to American Veterans since I am Turkish by birth. I explained to them my reasons when they asked me but I see that there are many people out there who do not understand the importance of serving to one’s country, and thus the importance of this Memorial Day.

It really does not matter where you are born. The place of birth is not your choice. You may have roots in different countries. What is important is that there is a country which is providing a place for you to live in. It provides freedom, justice, and security for you to enjoy your life without fighting and struggling for these basic principles so that you can focus on other things in life to, better your life, be productive and fulfill your potential. That country is your home and your own country. This of course does not come without a cost. There were millions of veterans who fought to ensure this, regardless of which country you live in. You may argue the evil intentions of a country or a single leader. However, there is no other reason for one man to risk his life other than to protect his country and his family (2). No financial gain or any entitlement can justify the sacrifice of their lives. Each veteran who are resting in these graveyards died to provide you with that freedom, justice and security. This requires respect to those and to the flag that represents their blood and ultimate sacrifice.

It is also important to mention that fighting alone for any objective or ideology does neither make you a veteran nor entitle you for respect. There are terrorists who believe in fighting for an objective. There are so called humans that kill innocent people, women and children for self proclaimed message and agendas. It is true that there are many poor and uneducated who are led by evil and ill intentioned individuals into evil doings but there is also a part in everyone's heart that can separate them as being purely good or bad. Regardless of how unintelligent or illiterate you are, the roots of goodness and righteousness may exist in all souls, most especially the good ones. It is this property that allows one to differentiate the good from the bad regardless of one’s background. It even exists in animals. There is no animal out there that kills for the sake of kill, but only for survival needs. So there exists a universal consciousness.

The common denominator of Veterans all around the world is that goodness in their heart. It makes them shield and protect the ones in need without a doubt and with confidence. It is that light that guides them to sacrifice their own lives without any hesitation. That goodness and righteousness makes them heroes with selfless courage and for their steadfast dedication for the good is an honor to self and great honor to the entire mankind.

It does not take much than to embrace and to honor them as such, showing some respect to your veterans and to the flag of your country that you are living in. Show them that you are thankful for their services, and they are much appreciated.
© 2015 Ali Taciroglu 

- I know that you are all in a special place far from death. You are very much appreciated and not forgotten. Thank You!
Ali B. Taciroglu

(1)  This work is in the public domain in Russia according to article 1256 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation. It was published on territory of the Russian Empire (Russian Republic) except for territories of the Grand Duchy of Finland and Congress Poland before 7 November 1917 and wasn't re-published for 30 days following initial publications on the territory of Soviet Russia or any other states. The Russian Federation (early RSFSR, Soviet Russia) is the historical heir but not legal successor of the Russian Empire 
(2) I use the masculine form 'man' as in 'mankind' which is meant to refer to and encompass all genders serving their country.

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

RE: Google set to free Photos from Google+ once and for all

Google is gearing up to launch a photo-sharing service independent of Google+, a new report suggests. http://mashable.com/2015/05/20/google-photos-google-plus/

It was first in Picasa service, then moved to google plus and now it is again being moved. The final destination of photos will probably be in Google Drive which should have been in the first place. I hope that Google is realizing how annoying to have your photos being moved around.

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

10 Ways You Can Cut Business Costs Today

Shawn here is summarizing 10 Ways You Can Cut Business Costs for small Businesses. Even though the topics in his article looks like common sense, we all know that we overlook the most basic when looking at the big picture.


Sunday, May 10, 2015

Happy Mother's Day

Tüm annelerimizin anneler gününü kutlar, sevgi ve saygılarımı sunarım.

Happy Mother's Day to all women that nurture, guide, teach and protect children everywhere!

-Ali Taciroglu

Friday, May 1, 2015

White Page

I recently noticed that I keep repeating myself when there is something that I want to share with people. It is such a great waste of time regardless how important the topic is. I decided to share my feelings, thoughts, opinions and comments in one place where people who cares can read at once. I hope that you would enjoy coming to my blog from time to time and share your view with me as well.